Bullying

[sunshinesmiles]

For 3 weeks now my Son and his close friend have been being bullied. To the point my son's friends Mom actually saw her son being bullied after school. Both boys called us Mom's on the same day after school hysterical and crying, and not wanting to go to school. Have any of you had to deal with this issue??? How have you dealt with it............got it to stop????? We have been having issues for 3 weeks with this. One set of parents is really trying with their son, the other not so much. We've called the school about this...............and Kiddo's friends Mom managed to get our two boys and one other and go for lunch to try and sort their issues out............of course the Grade 9 kid was a no show.

Casey Haynes the Australian Body Slammer and Bullied Boy Speaks Out - YouTube

Seeing this video and what this poor boy had to endure for years, saddens me...............I don't want my son getting to this point where he snaps !!!

 

[the_real_wild1]

Martial arts. After a few months issue will be gone.

 

[Rneddel]

break out the whip

 

[snopro]

You are in a tough spot. If the school will not deal with it properly then you or your son will have to. There is one thing the bully is scared of...........someone fighting back. Bullies are usually kids that were bullied themselves. Hope that helps some.

 

[Trashy]

I have to agree with snopro. If the school won't do SFA, then you have to take it upon yourselves to put a stop to the end of it all. It is a hard road to travel, but at the end of the day, It does pay off. jmo

 

[polarisdragon800]

Get your son to be friends with the best scrapper in his class... That way he'll have someone to protect him. But he also has to fight back. And stand his ground, worth a try.


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[sunshinesmiles]

Martial arts. After a few months issue will be gone.

If I had the time this would be perfect...............but don't hockey mom in the winter !!!!

 

[sirkdev]

Ya might want a make this a priority, hockey or not this will not get better unless there is a change in the circumstance.

 

[sunshinesmiles]

His friend that's being bullied is 11 and looks 15..........but is scared too !!! Don't think he's ever been in a fight though.......but sounds like he could snap... I dunno...........guess keep calling and calling the school...........and keep calling and calling parents !!!! I truly don't think martial arts is the answer..............teaching your child to fight to protect themselves seems wrong............and these days they don't just fist fight, knives, guns etc are in the big picture

 

[polarisdragon800]

Get your son a big stick..


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[BC Sno-Ghost]

Difficult and sickening spot for you and your son to be in for sure. Kind of a personal question but are you a single mom? If not does Dad know about this. If this were my son I'd be on the little Bugger's doorstep to discuss the situation with his parents. Usually the nut doesn't fall far from the tree and you won't get anywhere with the parents but at least you can let them know the next time their son comes anywhere near your son, you'll be getting the police involved. I'm going through a similar situation with my 20 year old son right now. He is being repeatedly threatened and assaulted 3 times now by group, not a gang...(their all "wanna be Gang bangers") of Brown Idiots. Sorry to sound Racist but that's how the young, Indo-Canadian population is referring to themselves lately. Police do need to know about this. Over about a 6 month period I've tried to let my son handle this on his own but it is escalating. I opened a file with the police, explained the situation to them and said you need to be aware of this because one of two things is going to happen. My son is going to defend himself and then he'll have an assault or heaven forbid, a murder charge on his hands or he is going to be seriously assaulted/injured and the police are going to say, "why wasn't this brought to our attention before it reached this point?". Police admitted it is a difficult situation to deal with but gave us some advice in case of future encounters. I'd seriously consider talking to the authorities. Bullying is taken pretty seriously nowadays. Good Luck. Your son will come out the other end of this a stronger person.

 

[sumx54]

Sounds like a good ol fashioned asswhoopin' is in order... I hated to fight in school but quickly learned to standup for my self and not let it happen. I understand that things have changed from the time I was in high school but the idea is still the same. Bullies will only prey on the weaker kids, as said they tend to stay away from anyone that will confront them.

 

[BC Sno-Ghost]

His friend that's being bullied is 11 and looks 15..........but is scared too !!! Don't think he's ever been in a fight though.......but sounds like he could snap... I dunno...........guess keep calling and calling the school...........and keep calling and calling parents !!!! I truly don't think martial arts is the answer..............teaching your child to fight to protect themselves seems wrong............and these days they don't just fist fight, knives, guns etc are in the big picture

You're so right, martial arts is not the answer....maybe in the movies, but not in real life. Knowing how to defend yourself with any skill isn't learned over "a few months". I've seen many o'Idiots who think they are martial artists get their asses kicked and look really stupid in the process. Fighting these days just results in more fighting. Win the fight or lose the fight, either way... it always results in more fights....and constantly having to look over your shoulder.

 

[sirkdev]

I'm off in a few days PM me details of the bully, betcha I can make him ch!t his pants.

 

[woody_tobius_jr]

Had this issue a couple of years ago with my daughter and her friend in grade 5. We had an excellent teacher, we told him what was going on, and he talked to everyone involved individually and then a day or so later sat all of them down together and they hashed it out. Turns out it was just a misunderstanding of what one girl thought the other said, blah, blah, blah ( girls...sheesh) ANYWAYS, long story short, the girls that were bullying stopped. They all just keep their distance from each other now. But I sure feel for you on this one, I just wanted to smack these kids upside the head and tell them to smarten up. Your school should be taking a strong stance on this, if the teacher won't do anything, then talk to the principal, if he doesn't do anything just keep going up the ladder until somebody does. My .02

 

[OVERKILL 19]

Give your boy a roll of dimes! One shot that bully wont know what hit him! LOL I dont wish your problem on anyone. Sad little fawker, I say go to his house and talk to the parents....if that fails, hire a couple 16 year olds to scare the crap out of him...$50

 

[underdog]

I'm off in a few days PM me details of the bully, betcha I can make him ch!t his pants.

Same thing I was thinking.

 

[eclipse1966]

our middle daughter was bullied for 1/2 year in elementary school and we had the school involved plus councilors and parents. Eventually the bully was causing so much trouble they moved her to another school. Anyway, she is now 20 and to this day I swear the bullying has affected her life as she has low self esteem etc etc. So, what ever you do dont let this infester and deal with it immediately. Demand action by the school and dont accept any mediocre solution. This is serious stuff. Good luck!

 

[Trashy]

Beating the chit out of a bully isn't the answer. Trust me on that, the confrontation is the biggest thing he has to get over, he might take a few shot's. The biggest thing for me, as coming from the youngest of 4. Is stand up for yourself!!!!!
You may win, but you may lose. Still hold your ground, and don't do it alone. Also....... (don't let Mom and Dad know)

 

[Trashy]

The other thing too is, that in 20 odd years. Your son maybe signing his paycheque. LOL